Thank you for your honest and forthright comment. I like what you said about vulnerability.
I’ve found that it’s especially tough to be vulnerable because my vulnerability often means exposing others’ vulnerability because most stories include multiple people. Even in writing this story, I realized that my being vulnerable about this event also meant exposing Bob’s part in this story: the fact that he reached out to me, shared feedback with me, etc.
That’s one of the tough things about writing nonfiction: we’re writing real stories about real people with real thoughts and opinions and personalities. The more personable we are, the more we ultimately end up sharing the stories of those around us: co-workers, friends, spouses, etc. We must treat that responsibility with care and sensitivity.