Clayton, that is such a great exercise! I love self-reflections like that because they so beautifully reveal whether we’re actually living in alignment with what we say is important.

A friend and I recently performed a similar exercise that is modeled after an idea from Warren Buffett. We wrote a “like vs. love” list. The first step is to write down all the things you like to do. (I put about fifty things on my list.) Then force yourself to select the top five things you love to do. After doing this self-reflection, your goal going forward is to avoid the things on your “like list” at all costs. Those things can block you from being the happy, productive, successful person you want to be.

For instance, my “like list” contains a lot of fun things: watching Netflix, going to movies, playing golf, etc. But those things don’t hold up when I compare them against my “love list”: reading, writing, traveling, having deep talks with friends, and spending one-on-one time with my wife. Everyone’s lists will be different. Something that is a “like” for me might be a “love” for someone else. The key is to live up to your own “love list” and avoid the other enjoyable things that hold you back from your true potential.

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